This month has all been about celebrating – celebrating who you are and who you want to be, as well as planning what you want to do for FUN. For me it was celebrating a milestone birthday, serving more people than ever before, and planning on all the ways I want to celebrate all year long. What about you? Let me know on Facebook or Twitter.
I found the perfect statement that sums it all up and honestly, captures the true essence of what Living Your Life According to You really means — and an 11 year old girl wrote it. Yep,a daughter of one of my friend’s wrote this amazing paragraph that I just had to share. If only more adults understood what she so clearly does at 11. Check it out: She’s 11 and She knows Where She’s going!
How to express and Celebrate your Authentic Self
By Heather Wilson
Question: “Heather, everyone is telling me to be authentic and be myself. But HOW do I do that and what does that really mean?”
Answer: I think the easiest way to answer this question is with an example from my own life.
One of my many passions is writing. What many of you do not know is that for my entire 10 year marriage I did not write at all. The odd little thing here and there but in reality I squashed my creativity down and did not write. That is a long time to withhold my talents and creativity. I felt like a part of me was missing (ps. that’s one way to know if you are being authentic or not).
As I am sure you can guess, with all that pressure it had to come out in other ways and I truly feel that is one reason my health suffered so much. I gained a lot of we.ight and my overall health was poor. I was under immense stress with zero outlet. You can imagine the damage I did to myself in the process. It resulted in both my children being born premature with various health issues as well.When you are NOT expressing your authentic self, it comes out in other ways—usually not very good ways.
So once I became separated and eventually divorced, I started to write again. Poems mostly. I seem to write poems only when I am feeling sad or unhappy. I guess that is a way for me to express it.
However, at this time I was making a concerted effort to have slightly more cheerful poems. I have not written any poems for a few years now. Instead I concentrate on my articles, books, and workshops. Who knows? I may go back and write poems again sometime.
Anyway, I thought I would share one of my poems you today. This one was written when I started dating again and I met my now current boyfriend of six years. I guess you could call it a love poem.
A Chance Slip
heartaches blaze across the sky
we find a peace that cannot lie
in troubled times we twist and seethe
and choke on dust of our beliefs
we cling to rocks afraid to drown
and close our eyes to look around
a chance slip, you catch my hand
and pull me out of wonderland
your smile brighter than the moo
opens my heart and gives you roo
to love at last on our own term
and gives a chance for both to learn
we cannot help the way we feel
we love, we laugh, we make a deal
one moment, one day at a time
my heart’s yours and your heart’s mine
How do you express your creativity and celebrate yourself? Do you let it loose in some way or do you squash it down? We are all innately creative beings. We all need to express ourselves one way or another.
For me it is writing and speaking (and now cake decorating perhaps); for you it could be painting, or woodworking, or scrapbooking. Maybe you sing in the shower or dance while you vacuum. I also express myself through the things I love: I love to dance, drink martinis with the girls, have friends over, figure skate, snuggle on the couch with my kids, read a book in bed and listen to the rain fall outside, etc.; the list is endless. ALL those things make me WHO I am.
Whatever it is for YOU, I urge you to just do it! And ultimately that is the answer—it’s as simple as that. It doesn’t have to be complicated…in fact it shouldn’t be. Your authentic self, in other words, the REAL you, just wants to be loved and celebrated. So find a way to express your authentic self and live your passions.
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Question (and I actually get this one fairly often): “Heather, how do I stay motivated?”
Answer: For so many of us, we get super excited and motivated in the beginning; we decide we need to change something, make a great plan, and take action. All for about….a week or two at most.
Then SOMETHING happens to get us off track—money, time, work, health, relationships, etc. We start coming up with excuses as to why we really don’t NEED to take action today; why changing this something really isn’t all that important. In other words, we sabotage our success. Instead of working out as planned, we find something to watch on TV. “I’m just too tired today”, you say to yourself. “I’ll exercise tomorrow.” But we both know the chances of you exercising tomorrow are now pretty slim.
Why do we do that? Why do we sabotage our success? Why do we lose motivation? And better yet, how do we STAY motivated and stick to our plan? It all comes down to how your brain is wired and your subconscious mind.
The job of your brain and subconscious mind is to protect you. Bottomline. And it HATES change. Any change big or small is a threat. Change means new information and it might not be able to protect you then. It doesn’t realize that exercising and eating healthy is actually good for you. It only knows that things are changing and it MUST put a stop to it. So you start to get thoughts and feelings that are counter to your goal and you convince yourself to stop taking action.
We could go into a deep discussion here on how the brain works, but really that won’t help you stay motivated. In my experience, there are two key things to keep you motivated: Incentive and Determination.
Incentive is your BIG WHY. Why do you want to lose we.ight and get healthy? Why do you want more money? Why do you want the promotion? Why do you want to quit smoking? If you don’t have a big enough why, after that initial burst of action, you will lose interest and motivation – guaranteed.
Once you set a goal, write down your incentive. Brainstorm all the benefits you’ll have once you accomplish the goal and make a massive list. You want your WHY to be MASSIVE. Do this while you are already motivated. THEN when things get tough and you start to lose your motivation, read your list. Read it 100 times if you have to. If your WHY is strong enough, it will get you through the times when motivation is low.
Determination is an attitude; an attitude to succeed no matter what. If your incentive is strong enough, your determination will boost it. It’s a “can do” attitude to overcome all obstacles. Obstacles arise all the time. Some are big and some are small, and many are somewhere in between. But there’s always a way to get past them.
Bottomline, it’s really important that you never, ever give up. If you never, ever give up you WILL eventually get there – you will reach your goals and you will do extremely well.
When I decided to run a marathon having never even run a step in my life previously, I had MASSIVE incentive. And honestly, getting in shape was the smallest part of it. It was more to prove to myself and others that I could do something amazing and to be a good role model for my children. Believe me there were MANY times when 5:15am came way too early on a cold winter morning and I tried to talk myself out of my training schedule. I am not a morning person at all. But I had the incentive and the determination to do it. I was going to Hawaii and finishing that marathon no matter what. And I did…one of the most amazing moments of my life.
When you’re deciding on the goals you want to achieve and creating a plan of action, know that there will be times when motivation is low. But with a super strong incentive and the power of determination behind you, nothing is impossible!
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I’d like to officially welcome you to 2012. WOOHOO!!! This year is going to be wild, crazy, and oh so fun. I can’t wait! This is one of the greatest times in all of human history to be alive. There is literally opportunity hanging around every corner just waiting for you to take notice and invite it over for coffee. 2011 was awesome, but 2012 is going to ROCK!!!
If you’ve been following me for a while, you may begin to notice some changes in the coming weeks. First of all, there will be a short article every week instead of one newsletter a month (and random blog postings). I realize most people just don’t have the time to read long newsletters (myself included) so to make it easier for you, each week I’ll send a short article that should only take a minute or two of your time. I’ll also be including short videos soon.
As well, my website is about to be improved! I am very excited to say that by the end of January/early February I’ll be launching a totally new website. Stay tuned for that party.
2012 is about YOU. Each month we’ll focus on a different theme or area of your life—12 in all. But I want to make sure you get the content and the help that YOU need to succeed and really live your life to the fullest. I would love for us to interact more. So this is what we’re going to do…
Imagine we are getting together for coffee one afternoon. The sun is shining and we are sitting outside at a cute little bistro sipping our beverages and enjoying the day. You can ask me just one question—the one question that if only you had the answer, your life would improve drastically and you would be ready to move forward. What would your question be?
Since I can’t meet you all for coffee individually (though I would truly love that, but please make mine a tea), I’ll have to answer your questions via my articles. Your question can be on any area of life that you would like to improve—health, wealth, relationships, self-development, confidence, etc. Is there any area where you need a boost? Think about it and then send me your question via email, Twitter, or Facebook. I’ll be answering a different question each week in my article so get yours into me today.
The theme for January is CELEBRATE! (it could actually be the theme for 2012) Yes, we’re going to celebrate who we are (our authentic selves), what we’ve done, what we know, and what being alive truly means. We’ll start that next week. For now, go and watch this classic Kool and The Gang video where they sing up a storm with Celebration. I love how all their shoes are matching white.
I’ve kept you long enough. Thank you for investing your time with me. Wishing you the most awesome year EVER! This is YOUR YEAR! Let’s Celebrate!!!
Until next time, live well, have fun, and prosper!
Heather
P.S. Welcome to all new readers who joined our community since last month! You’re going to love the practical, how-to information, plus meaningful inspiration, you find here to help you manifest your dreams and improve your life.
P.P.S If you’re ready to start living life in colour, check out my new 2012 immersion total life transformation program: The Art of Living: Adventure Mastermind. Registration closes for 2012 on January 14th. Hurry before all the spots are gone!
There is one single factor that determines every aspect of your child’s happiness, fulfillment, and success in life including their ability to develop meaningful relationships, make lots of money, be persistent, find confidence and reach all of their dreams – or not!
One man identified this critical factor and has been helping children and adults completely transform their lives for over 20 years by simply changing this one thing that resides in everyone. Now he is teaching people just like you the simple step by step process of helping parents, teachers, coaches and others help children elevate their self-esteem and forever impact their lives for the better.
You see whether you realize it or not, possessing high self-esteem is so powerful that it will either take your children’s lives to levels never even imagined or its lack can shatter every single dream they’ve ever had.
Luckily my good friend Dr. Joe Rubino realized this truth and began working – what could only be called transformational miracles – with people from all over the world helping kids grow into successful, well-adjusted, happy adults who are capable of achieving wealth, health and positive relationships that will forever enhance their lives. You see, Dr. Joe’s vision is to impact the self-esteem of at least 20 million children. And to realize this dream, he needs your help and partnership.
Learn How You Can Earn a Lucrative Income as a Certified Coach in Self-Esteem Elevation for Children and Start Changing Lives!
OR even if you don’t want to be certified…learn how to help your own children and those around you.
I just got home from my amazing trip to Arizona and I couldn’t wait to connect with you and tell you all about it. In case you didn’t read my November newsletter, I was in Arizona for a week of training with my own coach and mentor Kendall Summerhawk.
I have a confession to make…
It was a week of ah-ha moments for me and brought me some real clarity for myself and my business that I wanted to share with you.
I am going to be totally transparent here…
The number one insight for me was that I have been straying too far away from my original vision for my business and how I feel I can best serve you. Has that ever happened to you? Have you ever strayed from your goals and dreams, even a tiny bit? It can happen to the best of us and I am no exception.
With that in mind, I wanted to give you a heads up that I will be making some changes over the next few months to my website, my newsletter/ezine, and most importantly my programs.
Hopefully regardless of these changes, you will continue to be a part of my community as it continues to grow exponentially. If you feel that we are no longer a good fit, then I wish you only the best and send you on your way with blessings and much love.
The following programs will no longer be available come January 1st (so this is honestly your very last chance):
Money Without Mayhem (Private or Group)
Being a Wealthy Couple
Kickstart Your Finances
Instead, I am going back to my roots — in fact the real reason I started speaking and coaching in the first place. I believe with every fiber of my being that the ultimate purpose of life is to LIVE to the absolute best of your ability! So many people live life on autopilot and in a state of constant overwhelm and struggle, doing and being who they think they should be—not who they really are. We never know when we might be checking out, so now is the time to LIVE and ENJOY your life—don’t wait for someday! I feel I can serve you best by being an authentic example and by helping you live in the present according to your plan, so that you can then stand out and shine your light.
Life is meant to be an adventure!
Yes, teaching and coaching about money and wealth-esteem will still have a place in my business, but they will no longer be the focus. I will be limiting my programs to:
VIP Intensive Days
Private Platinum 1-1 Coaching (6 or 12 month packages)
Platinum Adventure Mastermind Group (limited to 1 group of 20 people per year)
As well, I will continue to host various workshops/teleseminars, attend speaking events, and of course product development. I am also working
on a couple more books that will hopefully be completed in early 2012.
In particular, the Platinum Adventure Mastermind program will run from January to December 2012. It involves real live adventures combined with coaching—a new concept in coaching I am developing. Stay tuned for an exciting announcement about that shortly. This program is by application only and is limited to 20 individuals (if you are just dying of curiousity and just can’t wait for the details, you can email me and I’ll give you a sneak peak).
I am also limiting VIP Days to only 2 per month. Though the results you receive from a VIP Day are simply astounding, I feel I need to limit the number of days I am available because of my other commitments—and I want to make sure I give you my absolute best at all times. I will only be coaching Monday to Thursday and Discovery Sessions will only take place on Mondays and Tuesdays. I will also have an online calendar shortly so that you can go online and schedule your own sessions. I can’t wait for that!
There will be many more exciting things happening in 2012 and I can’t wait to share them all with you. I especially want to thank you for your support, interest, encouragement, and love over the past few years. YOU are the reason I do what I do.
I look forward to continuing this journey with you. Please let me know how I can serve you better.
Live well, have fun, and prosper!
Heather Wilson
PS. If you don’t want to risk missing the opportunity (and ending up on a long waiting list), jump the line and email me today to schedule your free Discovery Session. We’ll take a look at where you are and where you want to be and which program best fits your needs. info at ladyinred.ca
In my last post , I talked about the definition of Crazy Wealth and how so many people are missing the key to attracting and keeping more money in their pockets—expansive feelings like joy, fun, excitement, and enthusiasm. In case you forgot, Crazy Wealth is having the ability and freedom to enjoy and experience life to the fullest.
So how do you create Crazy Wealth in your life? There are many ways, but here are three quick tips to get you started.
Laugh: Watch a silly movie or tell a joke. A good laugh instantly lifts your mood and sends a positive message to the Universe!
Play: Chase your partner around the house (playfully, not with a frying pan), jump in puddles, make shadow puppets. Adults need to play too.
Smile: Yes, just smile. Even if you don’t feel like it, find something to smile about. Smile at strangers on the street. Smile at yourself in the mirror. Smiling can instantly lift your mood and you never know whose day you’re making better.
You know you’re doing it right when people start looking at you like you’re crazy.
None of those tips had anything to do with spending money and that’s the whole point. You need to FEEL joy and happiness FIRST and then the money and other good stuff will come. Do whatever it takes. The more you feel those wonderful expansive feelings in a day, the more you let the Universe know you’re ready for amazing opportunities and experiences to come your way. So get a little crazy.
I know it can be really difficult when you are faced with stressful money situations to laugh and have fun. But that is exactly WHY it’s so important (in a healthy way). You need to break the cycle of having so many negative thoughts and feelings about your money and allow the positive thoughts and feelings to shine through. So lighten up and have fun. You’ll enjoy life so much more and ultimately, get more of the things you really want.
Please leave a comment below telling me what you’re going to do to add a little crazy in your life.
Heather Wilson went from being a single mom sinking in debt to becoming a Wealth-Esteem expert, certified coach, international motivational speaker and author. Heather’s passion is helping women create joyful relationships with money. Get her FREE video series at www.3keystocrazywealth.com and learn how getting naked can fix your finances.
“Dreams are often most profound when they seem the most crazy.”~Sigmund Freud
So tell me. Are you a little crazy? No, I am not questioning your sanity. I wanna know if there are times in your life when you’re able to get a bit silly, let loose, have fun, and really live life to the fullest. Because after coaching countless clients about their finances, I’ve come to the realization that most people simply don’t have enough fun.
The majority of us live life on autopilot or we’re always so stressed out and overwhelmed that our head might explode at any moment. And when it comes to money and wealth, it’s a love/hate topic most people avoid at all costs.
Money is SOOO serious. It’s shelter over our heads and food on the table. It’s men in dark suits judging our credit score. It’s wounds from the past. It’s bills to be paid. Uggg. That’s no fun at all. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
For many people, there’s nothing fun about money unless you have lots of it. Historically, the definition of wealth has always been a number. If you have $1,000,000, you’re wealthy. But wealth is so much more than that. I like to add the CRAZY part to the definition because that’s what’s missing for so many people—and by crazy, I mean fun, passion, enthusiasm…joy.
My definition of Crazy Wealth™ is not dependent on a number; it’s having the ability and freedom to enjoy and experience life to the fullest. And that can happen at any number.
What’s the point of Crazy Wealth™? I am sure you’re familiar with the Law of Attraction and how like attracts like. When you feel and think positive things, you attract positive experiences. When you think and feel negative things, you attract negative experiences. So if you are constantly worrying about money, chances are that will be your experience tomorrow too. BUT if you can feel joy and other positive thoughts, you can break the cycle and start attracting more positive experiences.
You need to feel the positive feelings and thoughts about money FIRST and then you will attract the opportunities and experiences that will increase your wealth. It all comes from and starts with you.
In the second part of this article, I’ll give you some ideas of how to start getting a little crazy every day. But in the meantime, can you comment with some thoughts about free ways you can have more fun in your life?
Heather Wilson went from being a single mom sinking in debt to becoming a Wealth-Esteem expert, certified coach, international motivational speaker and author. Heather’s passion is helping women create joyful relationships with money. Get her FREE video series at www.3keystocrazywealth.com and learn how getting naked can fix your finances.
“Healthy, Wealthy & Wise Gifts Giveaway Offers 100s of FREE Health and Wellness Related Products, Services & Memberships”
I wanted to let you know today about a Health and Wellness site that will allow you to download 100’s of self help gifts. And the best part is that it is absolutely FREE!
If you’ve had enough of plodding along year after year and you want to improve yourself and your health to make this your BEST ever year, then you need to go here: http://healthywealthywisegifts.com/go/1000122
Healthy, Wealthy & Wise Gifts will be open only for a VERY LIMITED TIME from June 9th to June 30th, 2011. When you go there you’ll find a multitude of products – all FREE – provided by Health, Fitness, Wellness and Marketing experts from all over the world. Here is just a small sample of what you will find:
* Mind Alchemy: Unlocking The POWER of Your Mind – Steven Aitchison
* Getting Started With Clarifying Values – Karen Cappello
* The Stressful Lives Guide to Aromatherapy – Jill Rheaume
* Chakra Balancing Meditation MP3 – Becca Chopra
* 63 Success Strategies – Zoe Routh
* Supercharge Your Weight Loss – Hollie Hawley
* Mindsetology Package ($97 value) – Jeremy Gislason
* Secrets On Attracting Clients & Removing Your Money Blocks – Heather Picken
* The Free Inner Bonding Home Study Course – Margaret Paul
* Blooming At Midlife – Tomar Levine
* Love Your Body 30 Day Transformation Program – Kerri Kannan
* And TONS (OVER 300+) MORE!
The organizers of the event are Stephanie Mulac, Carolyn Hansen and Dr. Joe Rubino.
Stephanie started this style of event in 2006. It’s in the form of a “Giveaway” which is sort of like a giant electronic trade fair where 100’s of experts offer their products free to the public.
Because it has become so popular, this year Stephanie has enlisted the services of Carolyn Hansen, renowned fitness professional, and Self Exteem Expert, Dr. Joe Rubino.
You only have to walk into any book store in any country to see how popular the subjects of health, fitness and wellness are. It’s a multi-billion dollar industry churning out hundreds of new books, audios, CD’s and other paraphernalia every year.
With the year almost half over, what better time is there than right NOW to set yourself and your business up for future success? This event is a life-changing experience for those who take it.
Come and join Stephanie, Carolyn, Joe and me and see for yourself.
If you want to grab the largest collection of health, wellness and internet marketing products you’ll find ANYWHERE – all FREE – then go to http://healthywealthywisegifts.com/go/1000122 NOW and claim your bounty!
